Frequently Asked Questions

These events are about so much more than just finding a date- they’re about restoring hope and reminding Christian singles that they’re not alone in their desire for marriage. Many people come in feeling discouraged, like everyone else is moving on, getting married, and they’re still waiting. Some feel like the only single one left in their friend group. These gatherings offer a fresh sense of encouragement and belonging, where everyone is in the same season and shares the same heart for godly connection. Whether a romantic match happens or not, each event leaves people walking away with renewed faith, meaningful friendships, and the reminder that God hasn’t forgotten their story- He’s still working.

Mixers
We provide light refreshments and a charcuterie board to graze

Speed Dating
1 Drink/Food item minimum required at the venue

Mixer Events:

Both men and women must bring three sticky notes/notecards, each with one open-ended question written down

In addition to the sticky notes, men are requested to prepare 5-10 "flirty business cards." These cards, whether on sticky notes or cut 3x5 index cards, should include their name, phone number, and social media handles (or email if social media isn't applicable). Termed as "flirty business cards," men are informed that these cards serve as a means to express interest in seeing someone again. The men are encouraged to ask a woman they are conversing with if they can offer one of their cards, expressing their desire to meet again.

Speed Dating Events:

Just a good attitude :)

Nope! You can wear whatever makes you feel most comfortable and confident!

From our experience of running dozens of events, the majority of attendees at our events are sincere Christians who are looking for partners who share their faith. We understand the importance of maintaining the integrity of our gatherings, and we have implemented several vetting methods to ensure that. One way we do this is by openly communicating our Biblical values in our marketing efforts. By being transparent about our beliefs and expectations, we attract individuals who are genuinely interested in pursuing meaningful relationships based on those values. Additionally, we have a ticket price structure in place that acts as a deterrent to those who are seeking casual encounters. This helps create an environment where participants are more likely to be genuinely committed to the pursuit of long-term, faith-based relationships.

It's important to acknowledge that thoroughly vetting every individual who attends our events is not practical. Instead, we believe in empowering adult men and women to exercise their own discernment. The Bible itself emphasizes the importance of personal discernment in navigating relationships and warns against false prophets and deceitful individuals. To support individuals in developing these discernment skills, we provide education and guidance. Our founder, Mel, offers coaching to help participants safely evaluate potential partners. This way, individuals can make informed decisions about who they choose to pursue relationships with. We understand that church leaders have a responsibility to guide and protect their congregants. However, it's important to strike a balance between safeguarding individuals and providing opportunities for them to explore and develop meaningful connections. Marriage is a deep-seated desire for many singles within our congregations, and we believe it's essential to create avenues for them to pursue companionship and growth.

Mixers
We ask the men to boldly make the first move by giving a woman a "flirty" business card, as we like to call them, if he'd like to continue to get to know the woman. (We can make the cards for you or you can make them yourself just write your name, number, email, & Instagram handle on a sticky note or on something else creative)

In return, we ask the woman to boldly accept or decline the card. If she accepts, we require that she reach out to him to either continue getting to know him or to tell him she is no longer interested WITHIN 48 hours.

We do not offer refunds and all sales are final. If you are unable to make it to the event, you may send your ticket to someone of the same gender but they must have the ticket in hand (or on their phones) for us to scan upon check-in. 

Beginning in 2021, we've hosted dozens of these events in the following locations:

• San Diego

• Orange County

• Los Angeles

• Sacramento

• San Jose

• Nashville

• Dallas

• Houston

• Austin

• Phoenix

We want to expand into other cities too! If you'd like to host an event in the nearest large city to you, email us at iykykdating@gmail.com with the subject line [City] - Hosting Event Position.

While we're eager to host mixers across various age ranges, we've noticed the highest demand among individuals in their 20s and 30s. Our events cater to this demographic, typically targeting ages ranging from around 23ish to 39ish. By focusing on this specific age group, we aim to create an inclusive environment where young adults can connect, share experiences, and potentially form meaningful relationships.